Background
My name is Blessing Okoro. I am from family of five children— four girls and one boy. I am from Ebonyi State.
Education
For my elementary education, I attended Moven Nursery and Primary School, Lagos. I attended Federal Government College, Okposi, Ebonyi State, for my secondary education. I have a Bachelor’s degree in Economics from the University of Calabar, Cross River State.
Therapy
My decision to become a relationship therapist was influenced by my experience, and where I am coming from. I realised that a lot of people do not have voices when it comes to relationship issues.
Certification
I have a certification as a relationship expert from The Buehler Institute, an approved institutional provider for the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists.
Challenges
I don’t think I have encountered any challenges, aside from the fact that it is difficult for people to talk. They feel that if one is not a religious leader or their parents, they are not supposed to talk to that person about their problems. It is actually difficult getting people to talk about how they feel.
Assumptions
People who say that my relationship advice will lead women astray are those who are afraid to look in the mirror. They don’t like to look in the mirror because what they see in the mirror is who they really are. They hate their reflections. So, it is not about what I am saying, it is about what they are doing that they don’t like and don’t want to change. If they don’t like what they are seeing in the mirror, they should change. People who do not like me are people who have bad habits, attitudes and patterns and don’t want to change them. I call them narcissists. They don’t want a woman to be aware and empowered. Awareness (of one’s rights) is key and ignorance is poverty. It is people who are not comfortable with awareness (that believe my relationship advice will lead women astray).
Responsibilities
There is a difference between a man and a boy. A boy just wants to have sex and doesn’t want to shoulder any responsibility (but a man wants to take responsibility). Boys shiver when they hear that they have to take care of a woman. They don’t want to grow up. Yet, they want to do what adults do.
A woman is supposed to work and support a man, while a man is supposed to provide (for the home). Whatever a woman is working for is aimed at supporting her partner. Anybody that is saying otherwise is a little boy who does not want to take responsibility.
